[0:00] Have you ever had a moment where you knew what felt right, but then you talked yourself out of it? If you've ever done that, then this episode is for you, so stay tuned.
[0:17] Hey and welcome. Well, this is going to be a nice, easy, simple episode to listen to. So, nice, something that is relatable to everyone, but it is still absolutely worth the discussion. So, grab your cuppa or grab your drink, sit down, settle in, and you might just get a nice little tidbit out of this episode. So, this is something, again, that does come up all the time. But quite interestingly, this was sparked by something that just has literally come up for me. And I was like, you know what? This is a moment. These things do happen. And despite me doing this work and being aware of this, the truth is I still suffer from these effects as well. So just letting you know, it's real. And what's even more important is to understanding that it's the awareness around this and it's the practice around this. And it's not like working practice or something that you need to go out of your way to practice. It's a mindfulness practice. So, as we kind of go through this, and as we discuss this, I really just encourage you to keep that context in the back of your mind. All right. So, I was saying this shows up all the time.
[1:41] And most people don't realize they're even doing it you're overriding yourself okay so a lot of people do it it just happens and a lot of the time we don't know it's happened until it's too late.
[1:59] We've all done it at some point in our lives. Most of us still do it. Like I said, I literally just have done it myself. But the thing is that about this process and about overriding that makes it tricky is because when it happens, it's mostly like it happens when not in the moments where you have a lot of time. These things happen in the small everyday moments. And over time, those moments add up. And when you do sit back and you start to reflect on these moments, you're going to have a lot of time. You might start to go, wow, they do add up. And I know I've had this feeling as well. So let's have a look at it. So there's a few different signs and ways this happens. And the first one is simple, is you hesitate after you already know.
[2:58] You know that first feeling, that quick yes or no, before your mind even jumps in. It's like you don't even know where it really comes from. It's so instant. It's just right there. And you do. I've seen it in real time. People question themselves and they go, oh my God, was that me? Is that answer real? So, that jumps in. That is the best, purest, and cleanest answer that you'll ever get. All right. So, always trust that. But of course, that's easier said than done, isn't it? So, when this happens, when you get that signal, when you get that instant yes or no, you pause.
[3:44] You think about it. You start weighing it up. You know, all the different options and all the different angles and all of a sudden, that's when you know, suddenly, you are no longer following what you felt. Okay. And you know what you're doing right now? If you're past that point, you're no longer following that, you know what you're doing?
[4:08] You're negotiating with it. All of a sudden, it becomes one big mind game. You've got the immediate answer, the purest and cleanest simple answer, and now your mind's finally caught up, you're trying to explore it, and you're negotiating. So, like I said, this is actually what's come up. I had and I still have technically a beautiful offer from one of my best mates and he invited me to a concert and it was a concert so he's down in Melbourne and for those who are not familiar with the geography it's about a two-hour flight away but he invited me down to a concert and said oh I think you really enjoy this why don't you come down we're gonna make a weekend of it and like, Straight away, I was like, oh, I love doing these things and I love being able to do that. But I did. I got this like instant hesitation. I got this instant kind of like, it's not 100% yes. So even now, as I'm saying this, I feel like I'm negotiating. I'm trying to explain. This leads into number two, by the way. This is why this episode is like such a, like right now, I feel like I'm under the microscope. you guys are seeing, and this is all happening in real time.
[5:28] Sorry. I'm laughing myself. I feel like I've got my guys moving going, are you listening to yourself? Really? Are you listening to yourself? This happens from time to time where I get that little nudge or that little tap on the shoulder and they're going, you really need to pay attention to this. So, I'm being schooled and lessened as I'm trying to help people at the same time, but it's a beautiful way that it works. But yeah anyway sorry back to the back to the the uh script or the loose script here, the life in the moment when you've got multiple personalities rolling around in your head it's fun isn't it so yeah it's really interesting like i'm literally doing this in real time, so bear with me people's like now i'm going to be super conscious as i go through the rest these are little signs and symbols here oh dear anyway so it is interesting like i did get this and like that hesitation was a no let's put it that way that's what i was trying to say it's like again but my mom was trying its best to leave the option open to go down and see this concert with my mate.
[6:41] And I know before because when he has asked me this before I know I've had a complete yes I really didn't even think I was all in my whole body was in I was like I don't care I didn't care about costs I didn't care about flight costs I just like well I'm gonna make this happen because this feels right this one is the opposite as much as I'd still like to do it there was a hesitation there that hesitation in itself is a no and so that's what you kind of you know end up having so that's where you've got to be mindful of this that little bit more so if you ever have said like i knew straight away but then i wasn't sure anymore just like I have been in this real moment, explaining it, that is this. This is the override. This is you and me literally overriding the very clear signal of what's happening.
[7:45] Now, this is really pertinent because I feel like it also leads into a deeper energy here. Sorry, sidetrack. Because the energy at the moment, to be honest, for me, this beginning of this year, which is 2026, very different.
[8:01] Very, very different. For those who have been following me or you've been listening or you've known me for a while, you know how much I travel. You know how much I do events interstate, how many times I attend different retreats and different conferences overseas my calendar is usually absolutely booked but it's really interesting, This year, it's not. I'm literally almost going month to month. I'm feeling it out. There is a very, very different energy.
[8:27] And the reason why I mention this is because I have a very, very clear signal, a very clear and deep signal. And what I mean by deep, this is not coming through me like through my guides or through the universal energy.
[8:41] There's an answer. I'm getting a very strong no to travel very much around my sacral it's so deep and it's very specific it's very unique and it's so grounding and it's almost absolute so i've been leaning into that and even though that was very much connected to work i still feel a little bit that is overlaid even with a personal sense hence here with my mate as well so you you have that and when you when you have that whole thing i knew straight away but then i wasn't sure anymore that's an override that's you just you know skipping what's really true if there's anything i can recommend it's trust that one that is the strongest it is the cleanest it is the purest that's the one if you listen to any of them that's the one you listen to but there are others and so another sign here is that you will explain things that don't need explaining.
[9:44] This one is subtle. If you latched on there, you may have noticed I fell into this just before trying to explain the reasoning behind it. See how easy and quick and subtle that happens. Like you have this decision, you make the decision and then you feel the need to justify it. You add extra words, you place all the reasoning around it, you wrap it up like a Christmas present with extra context and information. That is absolutely not necessary, okay? And you're not doing it because it's needed, but the reason why we end up doing this is because something in you doesn't fully trust. the decision on its own. That's a powerful, powerful distinction.
[10:44] You're not trusting the decision in its own way. So, that is something that you can have a look at and notice this next time. If you're finding yourself, this is ringing a bell or this is resonating with you, next time this happens, if your answer was already clear, ask yourself or catch yourself and ask, why are you still explaining it? That will help you. That will help you to catch yourself. That will help you to really recognize a pattern in real time. It's a harder one, like I was describing. It's subtle, but you can say to yourself, why are you still explaining it? That will help a lot.
[11:31] Another one, okay? And this happens a lot. I see this a lot. This is probably the one that I see most when people come and speak with me on a professional level. And this signal signal is an override signal so pay attention because this is another big one it's where you feel drained.
[11:59] You feel drained after simple decisions. This one, people don't even see or catch as an override. It really does catch them off guard. And I see it mostly because the situations that they're feeling this from are not necessarily like that big. But you'll notice, and it happens after, like this is the hard part. These feelings come after the fact. So, you're going to feel tired. You're going to feel foggy. You're going to feel a little bit off. You're not going to feel 100% yourself. Now, what's a very, very important distinction here is that it's not the situation that you're facing.
[12:47] It's the internal back and forth you just went through. It was all the mental running around, the mental merry-go-round that has actually ended up causing you to feel this way. That's the override. Okay. So, what happens is the sign that you're feeling will happen much after and you're already past the override moment or catching the override, but you'll feel the after effects. You know, and so, it comes back to you second-guessing yourself. It comes back to the internal negotiation and that's what leaves you with those physical symptoms afterwards. All right. So, that's a big one.
[13:35] And there's one more. So, bear with me. Right. So, there's one other big one that shows up. Now, what? In case you haven't 100% been paying attention or like you haven't noticed a pattern, every single sign so far has been about your internal processes. It's all about you and what's happening with yourself in those moments.
[14:02] But this last one that I want to talk about, it does show up a hell of a lot and it's the external pressure. It's in a different lane, but it is there, it is real, and it exists. It's another one most of us can relate to at some point or time. So, this is where it's not just you second-guessing yourself.
[14:27] It's everything around you pulling at your decision. It's like every other factor, and it's really all on the outside. Side, you'll find yourself and if you're not sure, these questions will pop up into your mind and this lets you know it's the external pressures putting on here. So, you'd be like, what are other people doing? What are they choosing to do? Okay. What looks good from the outside? Right. And then suddenly, even though you know what feels right for you, okay, looping back to number one, you know what feels right for you. You just start questioning it. And, Maybe it does have that little bit of the feeling of like, if I don't do this, am I missing out? Okay, FOMO.
[15:23] FOMO is a huge, huge external pressure and it exists everywhere. And I can tell you right now, in lots and lots of business circles and business talks, they really focus out and hone in on that FOMO feeling. Because as humans, we love community, we love doing things together, and when they press and lean on those buttons to make us feel that way and we override our own feelings a lot of the time because of it. So, you can ask that question. So, if I don't do this, am I missing out? Or maybe you're seeing someone else move forward and then you start thinking, oh, should I be doing that too?
[16:12] Because you might have a very close friend or a group of friends and then someone's like, cool, I'm going to go off and do, I'm going to go start looking after my physical fitness. Or someone says, I'm going to go back and I want to study because now I've got a much firmer belief in myself and direction that I want to go and all of a sudden you're in that group you might go oh well they're doing that and they look really good and confident you know moving forward and doing something yeah maybe i should do that too because we kind of go along because we want to experience and we want to stay with them in that way and so naturally as you can see.
[16:54] This is where a lot of people override themselves without even realizing it. Because in this situation and with the external pressures, it doesn't feel like doubt. It feels like you're just trying to keep up. And some of you might be very familiar with that phrase of keeping up with the joneses all right so like that's the whole if you're not familiar with that just very quickly it's almost like neighbors and your neighbors are the joneses and all of a sudden you see your joneses and like you know it starts off very simple you might go oh wow like they've just got a brand new letterbox and you look at their letterbox and it looks really nice and all of a sudden you go well well, that looks really good and maybe we should get a new letterbox. So, you get a new letterbox. They get a new car. They've upgraded their car and all of a sudden you're like, oh, we should upgrade our car. So, you upgrade your car. So, what's happening is whatever your neighbor is doing, like you're letting them lead you because you feel like that's what I should be doing to keep up.
[18:02] Now, here's the real kicker about this. This is super, super important. And I cannot stress this enough, okay, about this particular element, about the FOMO, about keeping up. Because keeping up and being aligned are two very different things.
[18:30] And if you've ever said yes just because you didn't want to miss out or you didn't want to be left behind then that is not your answer that is not giving you that clarity and it's not even to increase your awareness it's actually not assisting you in any shape or form on the internal side. What's happening is you being swayed and overridden, By pressure. Yeah, take a breath with that for a moment. That's pressure. That's the external pressure. And when you now know you can reflect on it, you can start going, yep, I know when this has happened in my life. And that's an important part where you can start and you can look at. Where you start literally going, wow, I can recognize when that has happened. And if you can do that, that will be a huge step to help you make sure that you're not going to fall into those same traps moving forward.
[19:46] So, there are a few of the signs. Now, of course, if any of these ringing any bells for you, here's the really important part. It's really important to remember that because you can identify these and if you're here listening going, Like, oh my God, Pete, I'm falling in and I'm doing all of those all the time. Please don't stress. Don't think that you're broken, something's wrong with you. No, it's not like that. And most importantly, don't judge yourself. Don't get hard on yourself. That is exactly what we want to avoid. But this is just about awareness. This is just about you becoming aware more about yourself and now highlighting it so that a way can change. The reason is because most of the time and the reason why you are overriding yourselves with any of these patterns is because you learned it. At some point, trusting yourself didn't feel safe. So guess what? Your system adapted. Your whole system learned to work with you. Your mind learned to adapt and help you to feel safer around pausing, checking in, and to second-guess yourself.
[21:09] But now, now you're here. And I can tell you, you're not listening to this right now by coincidence. There is something in this for you right now and this is the part I want to highlight and this is probably what you're needing to hear and understand right now. The same pattern where you have adapted, that same pattern, it has now shifted, right? And it's shifting in a way that it's trying to grab your attention. It's getting louder. It's becoming noisier in your mind and in your body. And it's not helping you to feel safer. And it's not helping you to trust yourself more. What it's doing is it's making things heavier and it's making things foggier and it's making things noisier so when you have these feelings don't be surprised if the frustration in your life is a bit more right now maybe you're finding the procrastination in your life has also increased or is more prominent in your life right now.
[22:33] Those things are all the noise, all the cloudiness, the fogginess in your mind trying to hold you there and help you to become aware of the pattern. And if you get really, really honest with yourself, the thing is, you usually did know the answer or direction. It was there. It was there in the beginning. You had it, but you didn't stay with it. You didn't stick with it. You didn't trust yourself.
[23:11] So now after listening with this my recommendation and my hope and want for you is just to take these next few days or the next week that's ahead of you and just notice those moments notice these moments where you can catch yourself paying attention and maybe you might even be able to identify in which or what way you are overriding yourself. If you can do that, You are well on your way to really switching off from those pressures, switching off from the noise and getting back to the beautiful, clear signal that is already within you.
[24:02] And as you do this, and if you take on this little challenge, let's just call it that for the sake of it. But if you do take that on, just remember when you're having or you're acknowledging those moments, it's not to correct them. It's not to change them or force anything new. It's just to go, oh, that was the moment. You're there in the moment just to notice. That's the key. It's the ability to sense it, feel it, see it, and catch it. Not to do anything with it, Because once you have that, then you'll know it's happening more in real time for you. So just notice it. And the question you can ask yourself, which will help with this is, when did I already know, but didn't follow it?
[24:59] Because that's awareness and that is where things start to shift. That is the huge thing I try to impart on people. This is the big thing that I'm really trying to help people to see because the
[25:12] more you have that, the shift really does start to happen. So you can work with that question even now after you finish listening to this episode you can just go when did i already know something but didn't follow it have a look at it you've already got evidence you've already got things in your life that show you that you've like have overridden yourself so you can already start the process to increase that awareness for you so you don't have to wait. You can start that process now and if you do when those moments come in the coming week you will have a greater chance of being able to catch them and shift them.
[25:55] So if any of this connects for you as well, please feel free. You can have a look and you can take the short quiz at theinspirationalsoul.com forward slash energy leaks. Okay. Just to get a clearer sense of what's most active for you right now. It will just help you to understand some of the other little parts there. But again, just something if you're feeling a pull to it, or you've been listening to this going, you know what, there is something here for me this resonated with me let you know i will go and have a look at that just again follow your own decision that you've just been given by listening to that invitation but on that note thanks for bearing with me on this one you've got the real like inside and vulnerable version of me of going through these particular things myself in the moment which was a bit of a surprise to me but it's lovely kind of doing it but of course too I would love to hear your stories or where this has happened for you because we're not alone on this journey. I'm a big believer in sharing. So if you'd like to feel share, please feel free to drop us an email or send us a DM. Love hearing your thoughts and love hearing your follow-up questions. And again, thanks for tuning in and I'll catch you next time.
